Analysis of Parenting Styles and Parental Ideological Guidance as the Basis for Agreements on Children's Education in Islamic Boarding Schools

Abstract

This study aims to analyze parental parenting patterns and ideological guidance as the foundation of educational agreements for children in Islamic boarding schools (pesantren). The research employed a qualitative approach with a narrative study design focusing on the author's family experiences. Data were collected through interviews with parents, personal reflections, participatory observations, and relevant literature reviews. The findings reveal that parenting based on role modeling, habituation, and the reinforcement of ideological values plays a significant role in shaping children's character and readiness to undertake pesantren education. The study also found that parents perceive guidance and education as two complementary processes, in which the family serves as a space for nurturing values and character, while the pesantren functions as an institution that continues the educational process in a more systematic manner. Educational agreements within the family are established through value alignment between parents and the pesantren, as well as a long-term commitment to children's education. Furthermore, parents' prioritization of educational investment over material interests reflects a strong educational orientation within the family. This study concludes that consistent parenting and ideological guidance create harmony between family education and pesantren education, thereby supporting children's educational success. The findings are expected to contribute to the development of family education and value-based character education.